yoni / vagina massage
Yoni is a Sanskriet word, that is often translated as vagina, but it is actually more than that. The vagina is only the part inside your body, while the outside part (including the labia and clitoris) is the vulva. Both together are the yoni. I use the word yoni most times on this website, unless I really want to make a point of difference.
Yoni literally means ‘sacred space’, which probably explains some of all the rituals and worshipping during a session. It is meant to honour the woman and her yoni as the feminine beings in all that they are… relieving her of physical and mental tension, expanding her Self and her sexuality, making her feel cherished and cared for… and that she truly may receive real love.
taking good care of your yoni
A proper yoni massage is a delicate but extremely powerful massage of possibly the most vulnerable part of your body. We hold far more knowledge in our genitals than most people ever realize. This can be beautiful wisdom, coming from a place of love and abundance. But it can also be generational pain, deep shame, and of course trauma. A yoni massage can trigger all sorts of emotions and sensations and, at the same time, offer a powerful way for intense healing.
You may have experience with receiving a ‘western tantra massage’, including a yoni massage, and now you want more. Or you want to focus on your yoni’s voice and wisdom to work on a specific topic by using guided intention. Perhaps you’re looking for deep pleasure to experience orgasmic bliss. Or maybe you want to experience an anal orgasm, a cervical orgasm, or even a full body orgasm. Whatever your reasons… I’d be happy to be your guide. I’m honoured to create a safe and sacred space for you to receive whatever you and your yoni need.
What is your yoni really telling you?
Your yoni has a voice and a will of her own, which may not always be the same as what you want. For instance… your mind and even your heart could say ‘yes’ to having sex. But if your yoni says ‘no’, she will close up, making penetration difficult and unpleasant. She may stay dry, numb to sensations, and can even block penetration altogether. Having sex anyway will likely be painful, unpleasant, even traumatic.
Your yoni needs to be seen and heard and taken care of, in order to be happy and healthy. She may remember things that your mind was eager to forget. You may convince yourself that you have healed from sexual trauma, but have you really? You may also carry a generational burden with her. Working on your yoni in a dedicated session, making her happy and listening to her, can release negative memories and beliefs. You will be more free and open… especially in your sex life.
Having a session dedicated to your yoni
If you have multiple sessions with me, we may want to focus on your yoni in a follow-up session. Or perhaps we follow a personal program, working on specific subjects (seeking wisdom, doing trauma healing, opening up to sexual pleasure). We discuss beforehand all we need to know about your yoni, your pleasures (and turn-off’s), your sensations, anything that needs to be shared in our heart-to-heart connection.
Having a dedicated yoni massage does not mean, that we only work on your yoni. We start with tantric rituals, honouring the sacred yoni you carry within you (even if the connection is not always there). The body then needs to be physically prepared for a massage. I stimulate your entire body to get sexual energy to flow free, open your chakras, and activate especially your sacral chakra.
When your body is ready, I then ask your yoni if she is ready, too. Even if she is wet and you are both excited and we already had stimulation of the vulva (clitoris and labia), it could still be that she is not open to receive. We only proceed with internal yoni massage when she says she’s ready. If she says ‘no’, I do NOT proceed, even if you want me to. Our sessions are a safe place, I will never do anything to damage this.
Although I usually penetrate the yoni in a massage with one or two fingers, it is of course not necessary. It can sometimes even be good to not penetrate, for instance when we’re still building up. We can have an amazing yoni massage without penetration, so it is not a must. But penetration does allow for other sensations, orgasms (from touching your cervix, for instance), and of course using my healing energy inside.
This also goes for the anus, btw. It is not standard, but if you want, I can do an anal massage with penetration of one or two fingers. This can be incredibly pleasurable, but also very healing. I have some really good experiences with this, but it takes a big step for most women. It is worth it, though, also because anal orgasms are intense en can be very powerful.
Having an orgasm (or multiple) during the massage
Although the massage is not about getting to an orgasm (or multiple), we very much welcome this sensation. I’ll never block an orgasm from happening, but I try to stay just under it, spreading orgasmic energy through your body. This, after all, is the light that we want to shine within you, dissolving blockages, healing trauma, letting go of beliefs.
If you climax during intercourse or oral sex (clitoral or vaginal orgasm), it is usually as a peak orgasm. These orgasms are often followed by a plateau period with less sexual energy flow for a while. For men that peak is much more pronounced, followed by even lower energy and usually losing their erection. Some women have a similar experience when the vagina quickly becomes dry or over-sensitive to stimulation.
That is why I try to stay just under the peak, trying to sort of hover in a pleasurable flow of sexual energy, slowly building in intensity. You can actually experience a number of small orgasmic peaks. For some this can lead to an extended state of orgasmic bliss, and even a full body orgasm. Whatever happens, all is good. There is no pressure to reach an orgasm, or for anything to happen. All you need to do, is surrender and let it all go. You can trust me… you are in good, loving hands.
Please be aware that, although I talk about trauma healing, spiritual expansion, and full body orgasms… I can never guarantee anything more than doing my absolute best for you. I have a number of official massage certifications, but I am not a ‘licensed trauma healer’ (even if many clients experienced healing and trauma release). If you know you need that level of professional approach to your (sexual) trauma, I would be happy to refer you to a specialized therapist. Other than that… all my female clients have said they feel fully safe and seen with me, even at their most vulnerable, and all of them have enjoyed a yoni massage, to which they could fully surrender.
Details
Duration
2 – 2,5 hours
Costs
€ 160
It is difficult to judge how much time a session takes, because much depends on what is alive in you in that moment.
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