Sometimes, the depth of intimacy that comes with a genital massage, is a step too far for some at that moment… and that is perfectly fine. It is important to acknowledge this, and never do anything you do not want. You can see this as part of setting boundaries and the building of trust between you and me in our client-therapist relationship. 

For many of us, trust is fragile and it needs to be earned step by step. It’s also possible, that you need to build up trust within yourself and with your own body first. We have all experienced how hurtful and damaging it can be if trust is broken. It can effect us at many levels, even where it’s not directly related to the original traumatic event.

Many women have experienced some sort of intimate trauma in their life, leaving them with scars on their sexual life and sexual self-image. It is why many women disconnect from their own yoni (vagina/vulva), and why sexual energy and sexual desires are often suppressed. This eventually blocks the life force energy and creative energy from freely flowing through the body. As a result, you don’t feel happy and often the body’s ability to heal itself is blocked altogether.